tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post2468976227192231281..comments2024-03-28T22:21:34.287-07:00Comments on Heart of Light: Sleep training at 9 months - Happy Sleeper methodRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06819528155575569595noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post-12669704232994292152019-03-24T14:35:57.694-07:002019-03-24T14:35:57.694-07:00Every baby is different- some need to sleep by the...Every baby is different- some need to sleep by themselves and some don't. Glad you figured out what works for you all. (And parents have needs, too!)Lomagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09273397354830985024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post-41809165306248302512019-03-15T09:58:44.310-07:002019-03-15T09:58:44.310-07:00This was so good for my heart seriously. My little...This was so good for my heart seriously. My little man is 7 months and we've been sleep training since the 4 month 'regression'. Those sites that say it takes 5 days are sooooo wrong (in our case). Haha... We've been consistent and he's doing so well. I wish someone would've told me that sleep training is just a lifestyle of being loving but also consistent. Most days he's a total champ but during leaps he gets a little nuts. I'm still mostly insane when he cries but it's gotten sparse and totally doable. With 10-12 hours a night and 3 (45 min to 1.5hr) naps a day he is SO happy and that soothes my heart! Best wishes going forward!!!Kendallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07041870746019979806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post-23701768952406615662019-03-15T09:35:55.033-07:002019-03-15T09:35:55.033-07:00This was so great to read! I have a 3-month old an...This was so great to read! I have a 3-month old and I always get an idea of the next stage from your posts. Love your humor and honesty, and I'm so glad sleep training worked for your family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post-34882401348180951662019-03-15T08:15:20.628-07:002019-03-15T08:15:20.628-07:00We sleep trained at 4 months after I read the Baby...We sleep trained at 4 months after I read the Baby Brain Book written by a neuroscientist who read studies on lots of different things and then gave a short summary of the studied research in each chapter. It was really good! Anyway for the sleep chapter, he said either cosleeping or sleep training are the only two things that actually work long term and that you are absolutely not traumatizing your child by sleep training them after 6 months. He gave the caveat that if you don’t stick with your sleep training method, you’re training your child to cry (they learn that x amount of crying will get them what they want and then they try to find x), so you have to be very firm with yourself. He recommended the Ferber method actually, which has gotten vilified on the internet but I then read Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems and it seemed fine to me (Ferber said training at 4-6 months is okay and our baby wasn’t getting good sleep cosleeping anymore, so we went for it early). The approach was very similar to what you did, but the intervals grow progressively longer. Definitely not just leaving them to cry themselves to sleep for hours or anything like that! We had a rough couple of days and then it’s been fine since. We can tell if our baby actually needs something in the middle of the night or if he’s just settling himself, similar to what you’re seeing. I kept doing night feeds until he didn’t need them anymore, and I still cosleep sometimes if he’s sick or teething. One thing I found encouraging in the Ferber book was that although they can learn new bad sleep habits quickly (ie from travel or sickness) they can also learn good sleep habits quickly, so any new issues that may arise you can generally fix/reset in a couple of days. Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09824248158166939190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1452621549434169941.post-53896377816149793972019-03-15T07:25:40.026-07:002019-03-15T07:25:40.026-07:00I just want to validate that sleep deprivation is ...I just want to validate that sleep deprivation is the worst, worst, worst thing. There's a reason it's used as an interrogation technique. I'm glad you found a good solution and hope she keeps sleeping well!The Curmudgeonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07620566130798466769noreply@blogger.com